How to Fit Dating Around your Single Parent Lifestyle

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Remember last week when you were telling your friend over a cup of coffee how relaxing and stress free single parenting is? No. Of course not.

A lot of single parents are looking for someone to share the lovely, yet exhausting experience with but there’s only one way you’re going to be able to find someone who will make you a cup of tea in bed in the morning, even after the children have come into your room every hour during the night under the impression that they desperately need Calpol, and that’s dating.

It’s true what they say, that to get the most out of things you need to throw yourself in at the deep end and just go for it, and the same goes for single parent dating. The truth is, you’re not going to find that special someone if you’re not looking, no matter what the rom coms you watch with a glass of wine after the kids have gone to bed tell you. The main problem with this however, is that it often feels as though there are just not enough hours in the week to run a family, work and have a social life. But there are some ways that you can manage dating on a single parent time budget.

 

Have a strong babysitting team

It is important to have a strong circle of babysitters, friends and family members that you can trust to be able to look after your kids, sometimes at the last minute. The more people you know who are willing to help, the less pressure you are putting on the same person to cover you when it comes to child care for all of your dates. Especially if the person who usually babysits is the other parent of your child (awkward).

 

Let them come to you

In all honesty, if someone really likes you, they will understand that you are busy and will make an effort to plan themselves around when is best for you, or come to your house and cook you dinner instead. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t understand that often, your family commitments will come first.

 

Date other single parents

If you think it could be something you are interested in, consider dating other single parents. This means they’ll be understanding and patient about your situation and, further into your relationship, your dates can include kid friendly activities that you can both bring your children along to. Plus, you know they’re good with kids if they already have their own. (Hopefully.)

 

Find another single parent who is doing the same thing

If you don’t want to date another single parent, find a friend or neighbour who is also a single parent looking to date. You can use each other to your advantage, by having each others kids to stay the night occasionally and having someone to babysit that you can return the favour to. Having someone to talk to who understands what you’re doing can also help take the stress out of single parent dating.

 

Jo Middleton is a mum to two girls and an experienced internet dater. Read more from Jo on her award winning blog, Slummy single mummy or follow her on Twitter for more bite sized updates.


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