Emotions

It generally goes without saying that there are a lot of differences between what men and women want. Thus, since sexual attraction is generally generated across this divide, there are a lot differences between what men and women find sexually attractive. Most of these differences are based on sexual stereotypes, both biological and cultural.

Dr. Laura’s harsh comments regarding the lives and perspectives of military wives leaves me appalled. As someone who is licensed as a marriage and family counselor, it would seem that she would understand the impact of trauma on a family, and the need to demonstrate empathy for those who are undergoing trauma. To tell military wives to basically “suck it up” is to ignore decades of research on the impact that trauma, stress, and burnout has on relationships (both in and out of the military).

We need others – we long to be close, to be loved, and to belong. The closer we get, however, the more vulnerable we become, and the potential to hurt others and to be hurt increases. Not following through with a promise, forgetting a birthday, or having an affair – these violations can be hurtful, especially when they come from those we rely on and trust the most. But what happens when we are hurt? How do we evolve past these incidents so that we can maintain our closeness and connection to others?

It seems that celebrity fathers are all the rage in the news lately (sorry, couldn’t help it). But then I thought back to my own childhood and realized that starting around twelve years old I had some nasty fights of my own with my beloved dad- and my parents are still married. What does the research on divorced dads tell us about the circumstances and how/why they occur?

There is a growing field and movement in psychology to find out what makes people happy. Find out more about what works and what doesn’t.

Relationships early in life can effect the emotions you experience in romantic relationship later in life. Find out more.

Of course arguing is a natural and normal component of spending a life with someone. But frequent nastiness is not. When is it too much- too often? When should you and your partner think about accessing resources? And what do other couples go to therapy for anyway (you might find you are not such a uniquely complicated and unhappy couple after all).

Mere moments spent searching with the words “chocolate” and “sex” on the internet generates numerous references to the aphrodisiac power of chocolate…or women’s preference for chocolate over sex. The latter might be seen as an aphrodisiacal canard. Does it prove that chocolate is sexy if women prefer it to actually having sex?

Given the tons of information floating around on Oxytocin, it’s no surprise that some questions follow. One fact many people have heard is that Oxytocin is released in large quantities upon orgasm. One logical question that follows is: If I have sex with someone, will I fall in love with that someone? Maybe, maybe not.