Food Preferences Impact Relationships

As someone who loves great food, I thought this article in the New York Times was particularly interesting. It discussed how different food choices could be stressful on relationships. Some vegetarians won’t date others who don’t share their views on meat consumption. Some find it difficult to modify their food choices to meet the needs of a pickier partner. Whatever the preference, each of us has a unique liking, desire, or stance on food. And whether we know it or not, the choices can impact the ones we love.

We spend a great portion of our days planning, preparing for, and consuming meals. It’s no wonder that it plays such an important role in our lives in general and in our relationships. As individuals in the article comment, couples find a way to work out their food issues in relationships. Some choose to accommodate their romantic partners’ specifications while others leave the relationship to find more amenable dates.

In marriage, sociological studies show that mealtimes are important times in couples’ relationships. Couples often plan their days so that they can be together for dinner, and instead of making individual meals so each individual can indulge in his or her own culinary preferences, couples go out of their way to accommodate one another so that they can eat the same foods. Although it might be more practical and economical to make the same foods rather than separate dishes, it’s also possible that sharing the same foods and the same food expeience is important in building relational bonds. First, it may show that you consider each other’s food wants and needs. It may also show similarity in what you value when you enjoy the same foods – for example, delicious meals, environmentally friendly foods, economical choices. Finally, it may also be a common experience as you share both the food, the experience, and the conversation. Food for thought for the next time you enjoy a meal with your loved one.

Further Reading:

NY Times: I love you, but you love meat

Kemmer, D. (2000). Tradition and change in domestic roles and food preparation. Sociology, 34, 323-333.