5 October 2009
Dating UK: the four female blunders
by eHarmony
While dating is never plain sailing, some mistakes can be avoided with forward planning and thought. Ladies, try not to make these classic dating blunders.
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There’s no doubt that dating is a process of trial and error and that what works for some, doesn’t work for others. As Albert Einstein once said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” But while a few blunders are bound to happen along the way, others can be side-stepped if you know what to look out for. Here are some of the most common mistakes made when dating in the UK.
1. Mentioning commitment too soon
It’s important to show that you care, but talking about the future too soon is dangerous ground. And don’t be tempted to probe for clues about how your date feels. The early weeks and months should be devoted to getting comfortable together and establishing if there’s enough of a connection without the pressure of what lies in store. It will be obvious when the time is right to broach the topic so don’t force the issue.
2. Sharing relationship baggage
Don’t divulge too much too quickly. Dating should be filled with excitement about meeting someone new and talking about past relationship failures will only smother this. Remember, your date is not your counsellor! Keep things fresh and fun at the beginning and there will be plenty of time to share more later.
3. Interviewing a date
It is natural to want to find out as much as you can about your date, especially if you’ve never met them before. But avoid firing questions at them or it will feel like you’re conducting an interview. Base your conversation on their tastes, experiences and interests and avoid probing too far. You’ll only make them feel uncomfortable.
4. Being unappreciative
If someone asks you out and takes pains to plan a thoughtful evening, make sure you thank them. It’s easy to forget that doing this takes guts so it’s important to let them know that you don’t take this for granted. A little appreciation goes a long way.
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Jeanne Pudge
10 December 2009 13:45
Very sexist comments! Firstly, not all women are like this and secondly, men do some of these things to!
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Jane
11 December 2009 16:52
…and how about the men be advised to say ‘thank you’ too???
How about a few more articles on here about how men could be behave and about what men should think about?
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Abbie
14 December 2009 20:30
Too right. These points aren’t exclusive to women.
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Bliss59
3 January 2010 02:00
Where is the article on the top 4 male blunders?
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kimberly
8 January 2010 10:28
I had to comment just because I burst out laughing when I saw the comment about “sexist”. Why are ladies taking the article so personally? I read it and thought…yeah I sure if I were a guy these things would annoy me! I think I was once guilty of firing questions on a first date a guy I met online…but then he took me to Rome…so I must have done something right.
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Sascha
25 January 2010 20:44
Why are all these articles about what women do ‘wrongly’? Where are the men’s top 5 fails or what puts women off a man? I can think of quite a few! (Lying,for one, biggest…turn…off…ever! But that’s not gender specific, perhaps the best idea would be to do some general no-nos that we ‘all’ can be guilty of, sometimes without realising!)
I find that guys I’ve met want to do these 4 no-no’s FAR more than I ever have,and this is evidence of me ‘not caring for them enough’!
A bit of balance would be nice.
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Sarah
11 February 2010 21:57
Sascha- they’re not there because men wouldn’t read them if they were! Once you’ve trawled through some of these advice articles go back and read your matches’ profiles. See how many of them have looked for advice or taken note!
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Mike
17 July 2010 01:09
Sarah,
I’ve read them for the same reason I’ve read this, because I’m trying to understand myself and other people, not just women.