It’s not just celebrities like Madonna and Sadie Frost who know the merits of dating a younger man. Relationships ^[1] that cross generations are no longer a social taboo and are springing up all over the place. But what can a man expect if they find love with an older woman? These are the eight realities that you need to know.

1. Children
We all know that the older she gets, the less likely her chances are of conceiving. If you find love with an older woman and want children in the future, don’t dismiss the problem. You need to be realistic about the prospects of success and think about options like IVF treatment and adoption. If you haven’t considered children yet, be aware that it’s probably on her mind and will place extra pressure on the relationship.

Equally, there’s a big chance that she will already have children of her own. A potential new partner has to be aware that she comes as part of a package. While the prospect of a ready-made family can have its appeal, it’s important that you are realistic about how it will affect your life. Children will obviously restrict spontaneity and add new responsibilities. Sometimes you will find you are not her main priority. This doesn’t have to be an issue but it is vital that before you find love, you know what’s ahead and are sure it’s a future you want.

2. Sex
The good news is that women peak sexually later in life than men, so you could be in perfect sync. But, if you are used to younger, less experienced women, you might be in for a surprise. Be prepared for her to tell you exactly what she wants and how she wants it. You may have to relinquish some control but that could be a good thing.

3. Strength of will
If she’s got a few relationships under her belt and has experienced some tricky times, she probably won’t want a man who tells her what to do. So, if you like to make demands and expect them to be followed, expect a challenge. But if you’re looking for someone that says what she thinks and collaborates in the decision-making process, then she could be the one for you.

4. Social references
To you, Bob Geldof is Peaches’ dad; to her he’s the long-locked lead singer of The Boomtown Rats. While differences can be amusing – ‘When I landed my first job, you were still at school!’ – people use these references from the past to express themselves in the present, so if you’re just not getting it, it can be very annoying for both of you.

5. Money
There are various scenarios here. An older woman who has never had children could be at the peak of her career so be prepared for potential ego damage if you end up contributing much less. Equally, if she’s been concentrating on raising a family and has been out of the work place for some time, she is unlikely to have a solid source of income. If you are ready to make a financial, as well as emotional, commitment, this shouldn’t be a problem, but be realistic about how this will affect your future and responsibilities.

6. Health
Obviously, the older someone gets, the more likely she will fall ill so bear in mind how this will impact your role as her partner. Also, if she is between 45 and 55, she could be approaching menopause which can play havoc with the emotions – bringing depression, anxiety and memory problems, among other symptoms. Again, be prepared for what the future might hold.

7. A fling
Be aware that not every older woman is longing for a long-term relationship. She could just be looking for a fling and a seemingly carefree younger man would fit perfectly into her life. So, if you’re after something more, then this woman might not be for you. But if you’re looking for something more casual, she could be perfect. Either way, it’s best to establish what you want before you get involved.

8. She’s knows your game
Watch out – if she’s had a number of relationships in the past, she’ll be wise to your tricks. She’s heard all the lines and will be able to see through your behaviour. So you won’t be able to get away with being anything other than genuine. If your intentions are good, however, this won’t be a problem. She’ll appreciate you for who you are.

> Read more: 8 things you need to know about dating older men ^[2]