Relationships are tough at the best of times, but when one half insists on pouting or throwing his toys out the pram, rather than talking problems through, then they become near impossible. So, how do you spot an emotionally mature man, instead of finding out the hard way? Here are five tell-tale signs:

1.    He can make decisions
You know the type – he can’t decide where to go for dinner, can’t decide whether to apply for a new job, and can’t decide whether he wants to be with you. The emotionally mature man has courage in his convictions; he knows he wants to be in a relationship with you. And he knows where he’s taking you for dinner on your next date.

2.    He’s responsible
The emotionally mature man doesn’t whine and blame other people or events for the unfortunate things that happen in his life. He accepts responsibility and moves on to turning the situation round. Who wants to be with someone who’s irresponsible? That doesn’t bode well for a long term relationship ^[1].

3.     He’s driven
There’s something instantly attractive about a man who is passionate about his work, or a particular cause that is important to him. It shows he cares about other people, not just about himself , and the mere act of being dedicated to something shows he’s driven and proactive – both admirable qualities.

4.    He’s close to his friends and family
We often mention this at eHarmony Advice, but a man who has great relationships with those around him is likely to carry that over into his romantic relationships. Most guys have mates they hang around with, but the emotionally mature man will stand out by being close to them.

5. He’s open and emotional
A mature man delivers what every woman throughout time strives for – the ability to connect with his feelings and explain them to those closest to him. He doesn’t bottle up his emotions, instead picking an appropriate time and manner to discuss them.

If you’re currently seeing an emotionally mature man, congratulations, you’ll recognise a lot of these qualities. If these five points explain the opposite of the man you’re seeing, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate. We’re not saying break up with him, but don’t indulge his immature behaviour. And if you do find yourself single again, you’ll know the traits to look for in a mature man.

For the other perspective, read ‘Five ways to drive him away ^[2]‘.