22 December 2009
How to know when to end a relationship
by eHarmony
It might be hard to admit, but if your relationship feels like it’s going nowhere, it could be time to call it a day. Here’s why you should end it sooner rather than later.
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In order to work out if your current relationship is worth continuing, you need to have a clear understanding of what you want from your partner, and also, who you are as a person. While it clearly can be very hard to end a relationship with someone, once you have made the decision you should take action. There is nothing to be gained from stringing out a dead-end relationship, apart from hurt and blame. Here are three reasons why you should end your dead-end relationship now:
To cut emotional ties before they grow stronger
The longer a relationship goes on, the stronger the emotional ties become. The sooner you cut these ties, the more you will protect the other person in the relationship. You won’t spare their feelings entirely but you will hopefully save them some heartache.
To allow both parties to move on
While you are both in a relationship – no matter how bad – neither partner will be able to properly move on. And the longer you let it go on, the harder the relationship will be to end. In some cases, the couple will get married – many married couples have told me that they knew their relationship wasn’t right before they even walked down the aisle, but they didn’t do anything for fear of hurting each other. This is such a waste of two emotional lives.
To save time
This may sound blunt, but a bad relationship is a waste of time for both parties. If your relationship is going to end eventually, why waste weeks, or even years, deliberating over whether to end it? By moving on as soon as possible you will give yourself more time to find a healthy and fulfilling relationship instead.
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Lesley
16 January 2010 15:28
Agree with all of this, I know as this is where I am right now today. The biggest worry I think we all have is meeting someone else, that’s not easy these days. Still notvthe reason to keep it going if it’s already gone!! Xxxx
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Wendy
18 March 2010 11:54
I agree too, I am trying to move on but a ex boyfriend still thinks there something between us. Which I don’t think so because he has let me down so many times, in four years I’ve never met his family or been to his house, I could on but what the use.. x
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debra
6 May 2010 11:45
I am in the same situation as the comment above. I was with a man for 2 years. He lived with his girlfriend in an apparent non-existent relationship and I was married. We decided we wanted to be together and so I seperated from my husband and he moved out. Now my new love has decided that he can’t leave his girlfriend, although he spends 4 nights a week with me. He says it’s because they own the house, he initially said that they were going to sell up and split but they’ve not mentioned it for the last year. He has let me down very badly and I can’t forgive him. I thought he wanted to be with me and so I kept my end of the bargain by ending my marriage for him but he’s just let me down and turned into a coward. Now I’m living in a house I cannot afford to keep and have nobody to share my life with. I’m just trying to find Mr right but what’s the use. Once bitten twice shy???