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7 January 2010

12 signs you’re ready to get engaged

by eHarmony

If you think it’s time to move your relationship to the next level, here are twelve signs that you’re ready.

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If you think it’s time to move your relationship to the next level, here are twelve signs that you’re ready.

1.    It’s all good
Regardless of marriage, this is the quality of leading a full and happy life together – and apart. If you both have fulfilling careers, social lives and families, you have a great base for marriage (and you don’t expect it to be the answer to any problems)

2.    Boring stuff is interesting
Marriage can be exciting, but it also comes with the boring bits like doing the weekly shop or visiting dull relatives. You’ll be as happy doing these things as you are having a great meal out together.

3.    You’re ready to wave your single life goodbye
The prospect of being faithful to one person ‘til death do us part doesn’t scare you; in fact it makes you feel more confident. You’ve even considered foregoing contact with your exes to ensure the health of your marriage.

4.    You’re the best you can be together
You bring out the best in each other. A bit cheesy we know, but important for a long lasting relationship.

5.    You can compromise
Sometimes, compromise doesn’t mean meeting each other half way – it can mean you simply have to let your other half have their way. You want Chinese takeaway, and they want Indian; unless you’re going to make separate orders, maybe this time you’ll just have to settle for a Korma. It’s about being a ‘we’ rather than a ‘me’.

6.    You support each other
If you get an important promotion at work, or they do a charity abseil, you’re there and the first to cheer each other on.

7.    Honesty is the policy
Your partner should be the one person you don’t need a front for when things aren’t going so well. You’ll be sharing your lives together, and if you’ve had a bad day, you need to be able to come home and talk about it, and even have a bit of a cry, without feeling self-conscious or as if you’re being judged.

8.    You can handle conflict
It’s not necessarily what you argue about, it’s how you deal with the argument. If you respect each other’s opinion and can accept that conflict happens in every healthy relationship, you’re on the right path for marriage.

Read on for more on why arguing is good for your relationship

9.    You’re matched on values
It makes sense for a married couple to have the same values. For example, that you both want children at some point, or that you both are happy to settle down in a nice rural area after you tie the knot. If you’re pulling in separate directions, you could pull your marriage apart.

10.    Your family and friends are happy for you
These are the people whose opinions probably mean the most to you, and if they’re happy with your relationship, you can be too.

Find out more about balancing your loved one and your family

11.    You’re looking ahead
Maybe it’s that you’ve opened a joint savings account, or when you’re out shopping you automatically wonder whether your partner will like a certain piece of furniture for your house, but if you’ve started thinking long term you’re on the right track.

12.    You’d be happy to elope
Marriage is much more than just one great day, and a big party with all your friends and family. If you’d be ok with the idea of eloping, rather than having a big wedding, then that’s a great indicator that you’re serious about marriage.

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Comments

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Tom

3 March 2010 23:12

I’d love to get started on the first level. After 4 months with EHarmony I’ve got 920 closed matches, 10 active matches but I don’t reckon that any of these are going to go anywhere. Is this typical?

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Henneke

12 March 2010 16:19

Yes I think so! And most of the men I was brave enough to contact have not even bothered to reply – so much for politeness…I think there must be quite a few “matches” that aren’t actually active, on here…or people with very unrealistic expectations, looking for Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie :-)

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Lily

19 September 2010 10:17

Hey, guys,

I met some pretty great people (and yes, not necessarily all of them are success relationship stories), I also met my now boyfriend, who I am very much in love with on here, so…Keep the faith. This is a great site.

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Robbie

18 April 2011 06:57

It is? – Oh it is! – pause for laughter!

Robbie

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