Comments on: 5 signs that bitterness is stopping you from finding love

By: Christine

Christine — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 15:54:55 +0000

sounds like you are a commitment phobe Peter.

By: Peter

Peter — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 14:43:00 +0000

My Problem is that I don’t want what I can have, I only seem to want what I can’t have. This is something I would love to get over because I have let some lovely women slip away, and have been treated badly by the one’s I can’t have, Im 52 and know I can’t go on like this.

By: Teresa

Teresa — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 22:15:26 +0000

i am all over my past relationships now and i do not why i am considering harmony it is because i have been on my own for over ten years now and when its been that long you become so set in your ways that it would be hard to adapt to having another person in my life. But at the same time i do not want to grow old alone. i am 50 now.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 07:13:24 +0000

I found that being single I was used to looking after myself. Letting someone else into that part of my life is difficult, But I supose love will make this different and then you want them in your life.

By: gnagri

gnagri — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 16:20:12 +0000

[...] negativity from your mind. Some of it are being judgemental about people, lack of self esteem about dating with a new partner, being cynical about other [...]

By: tony

tony — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 15:57:12 +0000

i do think that some of the of comments in this article are valid. but then some people are as optomistic as they can be and still find it next to impossible to find love what would you say to them who have been tring for years and have no seccess.

By: Nadia

Nadia — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 00:06:52 +0000

I think this article has a point. But I do believe that when you find the right person, a big part of it is accepting each other as you are. In a weird way, your vulnerabilities and being able to share them, is something that person will try to understand, rather than be turned off by it.
ps: I don’t reckon whether you sleep with a guy after 3 dates or 3 months necessarily makes a difference in terms of the respect. The right match would respect you regardless of the above, after all it takes two.

By: Helen B

Helen B — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 23:43:46 +0000

……..also, am I correct in thinking that you loose respect from a man when you share a bed (i.e. have sex). Think of all the women he has bags of respect for (mother, daughter, sister etc). But the one he respects the least is the idiot who agrees to sleep with him. Oh and blood is thicker than water. End of story.

By: Helen B

Helen B — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 22:41:20 +0000

I don’t think I am bitter I probably just need time for things to fade following a 6 year relationship. I seem to attract the ‘wrong’ type of man for me. I don’t intend changing myself but will just keep looking and hope the right man is looking too at the same time……….what a minefield….the odds don’t look good!!!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:12:56 +0000

I don’t think it’s possible to generalize – it’s like asking people how they cope when they’re blue; 100 people, 100 different answers.
But asking a friend for an honest appraisal can help (you’ll be surprised!)Getting your friend involved is a big help because they like you- they’ve stuck around. So their suggestions aren’t going to be that you should turn yourself inside out and into someone else.

By: Kay

Kay — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:30:03 +0000

I think this article makes a good point, would be better if it had advice on how to change yourself if you struggle with these issues. It’s hard enough accepting them as a person, would be nice if there was some positive ideas on how to overcome the issues.