6 March 2012
Profile Feedback: Edition #10
by eHarmony
This month's profile comes courtesy of one of our female users - she'd love to know what you think about her profile, what could be added, or even what's best left out.
Sometimes it’s great to get a second pair of eyes on something. That’s why, every month, we showcase one user’s eHarmony profile, asking for your feedback. We’ve had a great response so far, and for our tenth edition we’re showcasing one female user’s profile below.
Whether you’re male or female, we’d love your comments. What do you think of the profile as a whole? What do you think works? What do you think could be improved? All comments are gratefully received, but please, nothing rude or overly personal. She’s looking for helpful critique not harsh criticism!
And, if you’re interested in getting involved, you can find out more here:
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The one thing I am most passionate about:
The things that I previously listed are more interests/likes than passions. I am perfectly ok with or without a cruise or, for that matter, with or without a lot of things, but my soul demands that I be of service to others in whatever way that I can be. No matter what my future holds for me, I will need to leave room for others who have lost their voice and or need a helping hand. This is the core of who I really am.
The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I would like to find a partner who smiles easily and gets the humorous side of life. Gentle in nature and gives back to society in one way or another. Respects people from all walks of life. Compassionate/grateful/hopeful and forgiving in nature. Someone who can enjoy couple time and alone time. Who can celebrate commonalities and respect differences – learn and grow from differences.
The most influential person in my life has been:
I did say my husband when I first answered this question. Widowed a little over a year now. I have to say this question got me to thinking about so many people who were highly influential in my life. There were many; each one of them taught me valuable lessons about myself and life. Deeply grateful to all.
The three things which I am most thankful for:
• My ability to see that there are always alternative futures, if I so choose.
• My adult daughter is a close friend and a huge support. I love my 17 year old grandson who rocks..
• My girl friends who love and accept me exactly as I am.
Three of my best life-skills are:
• Maintaining an organized life
• Maintaining a network of close friends
• Managing my finances
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
That there is much more depth and substance to me than I sometimes let on. I tend to hide behind my humour at times. Some people peg me as being an open book but I am only an open book with those who earn a special spot in my life. It takes time to build trust and closeness.
The things I can’t live without are:
• Nature feeds my inner spirit
• Down time to rejuvenate
• My Computer/TV/Bedroom/vehicle
• Camera
• An organized home; pleasing to the eye
The first thing people notice about me:
My friendliness.
Some additional information I want you to know:
I have a playful spirit. I enjoy couple time but I also enjoy alone time to do my own thing. Would enjoy travelling under right circumstances. I attend Yoga classes to improve my mind/body/spirit. Currently doing some advocacy vol. wk behind the scenes. There are 5 languages of love: Touch, gifts, words of praise & encouragement, acts of service and quality time. Chemistry is great but lasting love requires substance as well. It is important to learn our partners favourite love language. How we like to receive love is often different than how we give love and vice versa. Learning can be fun!
My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:
Walking in nature. Taking pictures. Currently making a 365 day desk calendar out of my own photography. Watching special documentaries – travel shows. Spending quality time with my girlfriends and family. Quiet intimate gatherings. Yoga therapy. Some advocacy work – behind the scenes stuff. Connecting with my family who are spread across the country. Reading. Movies. Spending time with my Golden who is 10 1/2 now. He has been sick a lot this past year and his time on this earth is limited. I will miss him dearly but for many reasons will not be getting another dog to replace him.
The last book I read and enjoyed:
The Gifts of Imperfection. Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. It reminds me to remain true to who I am as I journey through into this phase of my life. My life experiences and my imperfections have shaped me to become the resilient person that I am. I choose to be compassionate/giving/hopeful/passionate. If I am blessed to find someone who can embrace his own imperfections and, mine, that would be perfect. 
Perfect imperfection is so much more fun than the illusion of perfection.
According to my friends:
My friends describe me as:
• Creative
• Affectionate
• Thoughtful
• Generous
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Catherine
11 March 2012 13:13
I think this lady sounds a lovely person In her profile she maybe sounds a wee bit serious? Think she’s missed out the word Lab after “Golden”? Don’t know if saying she can’t live without an organised home would put some men off? Would it make a difference to her if she met someone she liked but who is untidy?
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snoopuy911
12 March 2012 06:32
Too verbose.
A profile should be like a CV (Resume). The objective is to get a DATE, then take it from there
G
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Charlotte
18 March 2012 23:53
this profile may make people feel a little intimidated, needs to be more friendly maybe less information give the person a chance to ask some questions.
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Judith
26 March 2012 08:58
You come across as very serious and earnest, which is fine if that’s the impression that you want to create and if you want to attract people interested in those qualities. So it is then a little ironic that you say “there is much more depth and substance to me than I sometimes let on. I tend to hide behind my humour at times”. There isn’t really any evidence of humour in this profile and if it’s important to you, you might want to demonstrate it. It would also lighten the profile.
One final thing. This statement bothers me: “my soul demands that I be of service to others in whatever way that I can be”. Now it is a lovely sentiment. However, it can also sound like a doormat’s charter. Unfortunately there will be people out there who feel a need to exploit that quality. Just be careful not to attract them.
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Julie
12 April 2012 18:40
I agree with Catherine, the profile does come across as quite serious & the lady herself says she has a playful spirit but this doesn’t come across when you read the profile. Also I don’t know if some men maybe put off by the fact that not only is she fairly recently widowed but also now possibly facing further upset & trauma regarding her dog.
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Marina
13 April 2012 16:20
I found the resume a little contradictory – logts of reference to the lady’s humour, but this did not come through the profile. It almost felt like she’d spent too much time editing and redrafting to the extent that it lacked any kind of spontaneity. I’m sure she’s a lovely lady and perhaps her profile does not do her justice.
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Paula
13 April 2012 16:34
I agree with above, she does come across as serious, but also very busy. her life is full alredy would she have room for anyone else?
I found some of the bits a little long to read, and possibly would be skimmed over by a potential date.
She does come across as very caring
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Diane
17 April 2012 12:03
I agree with so many of the above comments. This recently widowed lady comes across very gently and shows an introspective aware person who is in a transition of change ( all brilliant stuff). The reading list also reflects this and like others have commented a little stiff and in my opinion not instantly attractive to the majority of people humour and lightness is what is missing. Good luck x