Agony Aunt – “I get jealous of my friend with my boyfriend”

by Eharmony Editorial Team - February 6, 2014

We received the following question from one of our Twitter followers:

Hey Lucy,

I get kind of jealous over my best friend with my boyfriend what do I do?

Lucy says:

As this concerns two of the closest people in your life, it sounds like a very difficult situation to be in.

It is natural to feel protective or ‘jealous’ over your boyfriend around other women. Around their male friends, often partners don’t think twice. But if someone of the opposite sex begins to have a connection with a loved one; the temptation is to automatically assume that they want to muscle in on your relationship.

Both of these people likely care a lot about you, so if they were aware that this was making you uncomfortable, they might dial it back. Have you talked to either of them about this?

If they are clearly flirting with one another then why not ask how they would feel if their best friend was hitting on their boyfriend or if their partner was flirting with their best friend. People often don’t realize the error of their ways until you can show them the similarity in their own life.

If it is just them being around one another remember that your partner comes home to you at the end of the day. He may have a laugh with her but if he wanted to leave he could- the point is he is still with you. Whatever connection they have together- it sounds like yours is stronger and holding his interest or he would have parted ways with you by now.

Lucy Walton is Female First’s resident agony aunt, sex, weddings and relationships editor. Visit to read more articles by Lucy.

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