How to bring romance into your everyday life
Do you struggle to bring romance into your everyday life? This Romantic Awareness Month, dating expert and life coach Laura Yates shares her top tips for sharing the love year-round
Did you know that August is National Romance Awareness Month? There’s really no better time to put some extra thought into romance, to find out what it means to you and embrace it in your everyday life.
If you feel like romance is lacking in your life, here are some helpful tips on how to restore the balance.
1. Show yourself some love
Just because you’re single, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have romance in your life. Believe me, the best time to attract a romantic partner into your life is when you’re feeling great about yourself! You naturally exude such an attractive energy. Think about what romance means to you and how you could bring that into your life right now.
If you think about flowers, buy yourself a bunch! Take yourself out for a beautiful lunch, book a spa day, make a decadent breakfast, or take a friend out to dinner. Treat yourself to whatever brings you happiness. Put yourself first and enjoy it!
2. Spend time with people who represent love to you
The best way to experience romance is to surround yourself with people that you love. I’m not suggesting you go out and become a third-wheel with your couple friends – unless that makes you happy, of course. More so, spend time with friends and family who reaffirm to you that healthy, fulfilling relationships – whether romantic or not – exist in abundance.
Another related tip is to spend time with people that reinforce to you that you’re a great person. Ask yourself questions like:
- Who really makes me feel loved?
- Who appreciates me for exactly who I am?
- Who supports and believes in me?
- Who do I trust?
- Who makes me feel great/inspired/happy/at ease when I’m with them?
Try to spend more time around these people. Show them love and start to let go of anyone who brings negativity into your life.
3. Write down what you want in a partner and how you want to feel around them
I can’t tell you the amount of people who have spontaneously met their partner (even after enduring years of negative experiences) by clarifying what they want and writing it down. The act of writing it out somehow makes it more real and intentional.
Grab a pen and paper and start writing about your dream partner. This isn’t about creating a shopping or checklist as such, it’s more about being clear on who that person is, what you love about them, their characteristics and quirks, and how they make you feel. Write about romance too. How would you show romance to each other? What does that feel like?
4. Be intentional and get yourself out there!
If you’re craving romance in your life, get out there and be open to finding it. Dating can be scary, especially if you haven’t done it in a while. It can also be easy to experience burn out if you’ve been dating a lot and still can’t find that special someone. Try to take on a new perspective. Don’t take it too seriously. Rethink where things haven’t worked in the past and set out a new, fun, action plan. Don’t be afraid to try a new way of dating and meeting people. Romance and dating should be light, fun and flirty and you can always find fresh ways to experience that.
Laura Yates is a coach, writer and content creator specialising in helping people bounce back from heartbreak. You can find Laura at her website https://www.laurayates.org/ and on Instagram @lauramyates.
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