DateHacks: 5 Tips for Getting your Dating Photos RIGHT


Dating expert Charly Lester streamlines your love life with #DateHacks.

Like it or not, we live in a superficial world.  Which means your profile photos are an extremely important part of your online dating profile.  Follow these tips to give yourself the best shot at getting noticed online.


Be honest with yourself

Whilst you want to use good photos, they also need to look like you.  Don’t use photos that are more than a year old.  If you’ve gained or lost weight recently, make sure the pictures are an honest reflection of your shape and size.  The same applies to your hair.  If you’ve lost some hair recently, or had a haircut, choose photos which reflect that.  The worst first impression is one of disappointment, so make sure the photos look like the person who would be turning up on the date.


Include a good range of pictures

Profiles with more than one photo always get more attention.  Try to include a range of pictures.  Include a couple of good head-shots, where you’re smiling, and make one of these the main profile shot. Use at least one full-length shot, which honestly shows your body shape and height.  Try to find consistent photos where you look similar – if one picture looks distinctly different, someone may assume this is what you really look like, and that the others are just very good shots.


Don’t use photos with other people in

Whilst you might think a group photo makes you look popular and sociable, including other people in your photos just confuses things.  For a start it may not be clear which one you are.  And then what happens if someone finds one of your friends more attractive than you?  Think twice before including a picture with your ex, or someone who might look like an ex … it’s a complete non-starter in online dating.  And don’t include children in your photos – moderated sites will refuse the photos, and even if you are allowed to use the photos, they will give the wrong impression.  Do you really want thousands of strangers seeing your children, or the children of your friends?


Make sure activities in the photos represent the real you

Think about the impression your photos make of you.   A photo really does tell a thousand words.  What clothes are you wearing in the photo?  Where is the photo taken?  What are you doing in it?  Think about the picture of you that the photo paints.  Yes, that snap of you in fancy dress might be a funny one, but does it show the real you?  By all means include pictures of you running a marathon, or cycling during a triathlon – but only if those activities describe the real you.


Avoid the clichés

Photos with drugged tigers in Thailand.  Topless selfies taken in bathroom mirrors, with toilets and toothbrushes in the background.  Pictures with exes cropped awkwardly out.  They have all become clichés in the world of online dating.  Stand out from the crowd for all the right reasons, and simply use nice, well-lit, recent photos of yourself.  Leave beach snaps for Facebook, and only use photos which you’d be happy with your work colleagues seeing.  Also, remember while eHarmony won’t show your photos to anyone who isn’t your match, images can be searched for on Google, so if you don’t want to be easily found elsewhere use images which aren’t also on social media.


Charly Lester is one of Britain’s most recognised dating experts.  The founder of the UK Dating Awards, her blog 30 Dates is one of the most successful British dating blogs ever. The former Global Head of Dating at Time Out, Charly’s advice has appeared in most national newspapers, and she regularly appears on Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour.

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