DateHacks: Embracing your Single Status at Christmas


Dating expert Charly Lester streamlines your love life with #DateHacks for making the most of Christmas when you’re single

Anyone who has ever been single over the Christmas period knows just how much it can suck!  First there are all those Christmas songs about that ‘special someone’ kissing you under the mistletoe, or giving you the perfect gift.  Then there are the office parties, where being one of the few singles in the room either makes you the target of drunken colleagues, or of gossip, or both!  And then there are the family gatherings, where ageing aunts and distant relatives ask for the umpteenth time why you haven’t settled down yet, and ‘don’t you want to have children?’

But there are ways of surviving Christmas with a genuine smile on your single face … I promise!  Here are my favourite hacks for surviving Christmas when you’re single.

Spend the money you would have spent on your partner on YOU!

Buy yourself at least one big present this Christmas.  You might not have a girlfriend or boyfriend around to give you something special, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be treated.  Splash out on that piece of jewellery, watch or handbag that you’ve had your eye on all year, knowing that it’s exactly the gift that the person you’re giving it to wanted!

Don’t hide away at home

Make the most of the Christmas season.  Organise festive drinks with friends, be a plus one for friends’ Christmas parties, or volunteer with a charity .  Get yourself out and about.  Not only is every excursion an opportunity to meet people, but you’ll also feel ten times better than you would sat alone watching Christmas re-runs on the TV.

Give your online dating profile a spring clean

Take some time to refresh your dating profile.  Update your profile photos with glam pics from your office Christmas party, or talk about some of the things you’ve done in recent months.  Start the new year with a new online version of you!

Do exactly what you want to do

One of the things married couples complain most about at Christmas is not being able to do the things they want to do.  With two sets of family politics, and shared obligations, and the extra financial strain of the holiday, Christmas can be a really stressful time for a relationship.  As a single person, you don’t have to worry about any of that.  You just have to answer to you.  So embrace it – this may well be your last Christmas alone.  Go where you want to go, when you want to go.  And take a moment to appreciate just how good that feeling is!

Go to at least one Christmas singles’ party

Christmas is a peak time of year for singles’ parties, as they have a ready-made theme.  Grab a friend, and make an evening of it.  Even if you don’t meet someone you fancy, it’s a great reminder that you’re not the only single person in your city, and you could end up making some new friends.

Make the most of the best time for online dating

January and February are the busiest months for online dating sites.  With thousands of new singletons signing up every day, it’s a great chance to meet someone new.  So make sure you stay active over the winter period.  Sign up to at least one new dating website, and try to go online as much as you can at the start of the year.  You never who you might meet!

Charly Lester is one of Britain’s most recognised dating experts.  The founder of the UK Dating Awards, her blog 30 Dates is one of the most successful British dating blogs ever. The former Global Head of Dating at Time Out, Charly’s advice has appeared in most national newspapers, and she regularly appears on Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour.

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