How to deal with being single in January
January can be a difficult month even if you’re in a relationship, but being single at this time of year can be particularly tough. Charly Lester shares her top tips for surviving January single
January is arguably the worst month of the year to be single.
Not only is the period between Christmas and New Year notorious for relationship break-ups, but even if you haven’t just been dumped, January can be particularly tough month. You’ve just survived a solo Christmas. And when you’ve been surrounded by family and friends, it’s hard not to dwell on your single status – especially if everyone around you is coupled up or constantly asking about your love life.
And, of course, Valentine’s Day is looming. Yes, we all know it’s just a greeting card holiday and your relationship shouldn’t be defined by an annual present and card. But the sad reality is that, for at least two weeks of the year, you can’t walk into a supermarket without being bombarded with love heart balloons and rows of cards and presents. If you’ve been single in January and not particularly happy about it, then quite frankly, it sucks.
So, what can you do to survive being single in January?
For a start, it’s worth remembering that January isn’t just grim for singles. The Christmas period can be stressful for everyone, revealing cracks in marriages and long-term relationships. The cold and dark make everyone feel terrible and like they want to hibernate. No one has any money and everyone feels like they’ve over-indulged. So, try not to beat yourself up too much for still being single and instead, try to make the most of the month.
Use your New Year’s Resolutions as an opportunity to focus on yourself. If you’re truly feeling like the best version of yourself, then this’ll give you confidence that will show when you meet new people. Remember that singles have far more time to spend on themselves than those in relationships so use it wisely; take a new class, join a gym, or buy that stack of books you’ve always wanted to read.
It’s also important to remember that you’re not the only one in this situation. Hundreds of thousands of other people out there are single too and feeling the exact same way you are. And what are they doing? Joining online dating sites! January is the peak month for new members online, so make the most of the month and spend it proactively dating. Get online, start chatting to new people and arrange new dates. What have you got to lose?
And if you don’t have any dates scheduled yet, rather than sitting alone at home, call your single friends and get out there, creating opportunities to meet new people. Make time for singles events, head out to bars and parties, and challenge yourself to talk to a new person every day.
If you’re still single by 14th February, treat yourself! Buy yourself a present you actually want, and promise yourself that you’ll spend the rest of the year proactively searching for someone to spend next Valentine’s Day with.
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