Internet dating advice for pros

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There’s lots of internet dating advice out there for beginners. After all, they say you can’t teach your grandmother to suck eggs – or rather, it’s much harder to give a seasoned online dating pro some useful advice, than it is to help a beginner. But, even if you’ve been online dating since Compuserve was an ISP we think there are still some things you can do to increase your chances of success.

1.    Give everyone a chance
If you’ve been internet dating for a while you might have become a bit cynical and jaded. But you shouldn’t tar every match you see with your past experiences. However long you’ve been in the game, try and view every match with fresh eyes. Just because Julia from Bournemouth is a blonde who enjoys netball like Sally from Glasgow did doesn’t mean she’ll let you down.

2.    Treat it like a second job
Internet dating isn’t a quick fix, and if you’ve been subscribed to a site (or two) for a while, but find you’re not getting anywhere then it’s possible you’re just not dedicating enough time to it. Going out and meeting people takes time, just as meeting people online does. You should be reading your matches profiles, keeping in regular contact with the people you want to stay in touch with and making sure your profile is in tip top condition.

3.    Give your profile an overhaul every six months
If you’re still using a profile you first put together in 2007, it’s time to have a rethink. What you were looking for, and your likes and dislikes,  from 4 years ago might be very different now. You might have something new to offer your matches.

4.    Keep your photos fresh
This point goes hand-in-hand with tip number 5. Photos of you from a few years ago might be OK, but go through your gallery and see if you have any better photos of you from recent months. Maybe you can replace that old scanned in photo of you with a more recent snap of you on holiday, or enjoying a new hobby you’ve taken up.

5.    Get a second opinion
A second pair of eyes on your profile and your photos can give you a whole new perspective. Something you thought sounded great might actually sound off-key to someone else. Ask a good friend who knows you well to review your profile. Don’t be shy – there’s nothing wrong with internet dating!

6.    Create good karma
This might sound a bit wishy-washy but stick with us. Treat the people you meet online as you would want to be treated; it’ll give you a much better feeling about the whole experience. If someone takes the time to contact you, but you’re not interested, let them know. And if you need to break off contact with someone – whether you’re giving online dating a break, going away or actually dating someone else – let them know.

7.    Learn from your mistakes
Rushed through emailing someone in order to meet them in real life and then realised you weren’t ready? Take things slower next time. Drunk too much on a first date and put your date off? Keep away from the booze next time. Life is all about learning from your mistakes, and internet dating is no exception. Learn, grow and you’ll become a better date for it.

8.    Give it a break
An internet dating site telling you not to internet date? Yes, it’s true! If you feel like you’re not getting anywhere, sometimes the best course of action is to stop taking action. Take some time away from online dating to meet people in other situations. It’s possible you might even need that time to take a break from dating entirely and work out what you really want from a partner.


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