Making time to date
Dreaming of the perfect relationship is all very well but in order to be successful you need to make a commitment of time. This can be hard if you have work, family and social commitments. The time required isn’t just for going on dates but also what comes before the date – filling in your own profile, reviewing your matches and starting communication. The time you set aside is a commitment to yourself to take your desire for a relationship seriously.
Time to write your profile
Block out some time in your diary to sit down and really give your profile your full attention without any other distractions. Plan what you want to say on paper first, take time to spell check, ask a friend to give you feedback and find some really nice photos of yourself – all these things take time. You want your profile to really reflect who you are – someone who is serious about finding love.
Time to review matches
It’s all too easy to skim over profiles or dismiss them based on a photo rather than reading them properly. This is much more likely to happen if you are cramming your online dating activity into small slots of free time between all your other commitments. Instead of daily bits of distracted attention maybe set aside an evening each week to read them fully.
Time to chat
Once you’ve started talking to a match online, you need to make time to get to know them a little before you decide to meet. Being online and available 24/7 could give the wrong message – that you have nothing much going on in your life – but taking too long to reply to correspondence can also put matches off.
If you’re sending a message and you’re in a rush, say so. Tell your match when you’ll be available to talk again. Doing this shows them that you are serious about wanting to get to know more about them.
Time to get ready
The hours before a date are almost as important as the date itself. You don’t want to arrive hot and rushed still dressed in your work clothes. If you can, give yourself a few hours before hand to get ready in a relaxed way. Treating yourself to a new haircut or outfit can really help you feel your best.
Check you know where you’re meeting and how you’re going to get there. If you need a babysitter ask them to come an hour earlier so that even if they’re late, you won’t be.
Time to date
If you’ve invested time and attention in all of the steps above, your date should be natural and relaxed. The most precious thing you can give to someone is your attention, so turn your phone off and for an hour or two focus fully on the person in front of you.
Even if your initial feeling is that there isn’t any chemistry between you, allow this time to really be with them and try to get to know them. If you decide they aren’t the right match for you, it’ll be an informed decision. None of the time you spent to get here will have been wasted.
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