5 mindset practices to help make dating fun
Did you know that you can think yourself to a better dating experience? Laura Yates shares five mindset practices to try
Having the right mindset is key to getting the relationship you really want. It keeps you focused but open, helps you stay positive (even when there are bumps in the road), and helps to create a feeling of happiness and fulfilment that extends into your entire life.
Here are five mindset practices that will help to make your dating experience as enjoyable and exhilarating as possible.
Mindfulness and/or meditation
There’s been a lot of hype over the last few years about the benefits of meditation and mindfulness but, in my own experience, it’s a game changer. If you’re looking for clarity and direction then meditating for just a couple of minutes a day can have a profound effect. Your mind feels less cluttered, you become less reactive, and you find it easier to focus on the things you want instead of those you don’t want. I really recommend giving it a try; you can find a number of short meditations online but being consistent is key.
I love visualisation as it gives you permission to dream about everything you want from a partner and a relationship. Visualising who and what you desire can be extremely powerful as it trains your brain to seek out those things in the real world. This isn’t just about thinking about what you want and hoping that person will magically drop from the sky. Use visualisation to clarify what you want and enjoy the feeling, as if it’s already happened to you. That way you’ll subconsciously start look for it in your day-to-day life and take the steps needed to find it. But remember, this only really works if you do it regularly.
Know that it’s a done deal
Once you let go of ‘needing’ to find someone and instead trust that you will meet that person, the way you feel about dating and the way that you approach it will change. Yes you still have to be proactive – I’m not saying you should sit at home every day and not do anything! When you adopt a mindset that trusts it’s going to happen, you’ll be more relaxed and able to see the opportunity in everything rather than limitations.
The best way to change a mindset of lack and frustration is to acknowledge what you do have in your life. Every day write down 5-10 things you’re grateful for. These can be material things, experiences, people, whatever you like. There’s no right or wrong way to be grateful – and you can’t be down and grateful at the same time!
Write down who you want to be in your next relationship
Just because you’re not in the relationship you want to be in right now, you don’t just have to wait for it to happen. One thing I love to do is to think about how I can grow and improve myself so that I’m the best person I can be when that relationship arrives. Not just for the relationship of course, for me too. Write down the type of person you want to be and then think about what needs to happen for you to become that person.
Would you like to be someone who takes care of their health by running regularly or doing yoga every Saturday morning? Or someone who takes an art class or runs their own business? You could want to become a more compassionate person or a better listener. It’s a personal choice, of course, but when you do start making changes you’ll start to feel more confident and clear about what you want.
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