How to reduce the cost of finding love
Did you know that your bad dates could be hurting your bank balance? The cost of finding love can be high. But don’t worry; here are some top tips to help you save money and meet someone special
Dating is expensive. From buying the perfect accessory for your date night outfit to splitting the bill on the date itself, the cost of finding love adds up.
And there aren’t just financial costs to consider. The amount of time wasted on bad dates can be just as painful. In fact, a recent survey by the experts at eharmony found that singles will spend £2 billion and 96 million hours on bad dates in 2018.
Bad dates take an emotional toll too. 16% of singles admit to being disheartened after a bad date, 12% feel self-conscious, and 13% are depressed. In fact, 33% of singles wonder if they’ll ever meet anyone compatible and 51% don’t expect to date at all this year.
It paints a bleak picture, but don’t despair; you can save time and money and still date, reducing the overall cost of finding love. Here are our top tips:
1. Be honest in your profile
Online dating works best when your profile reflects the real you. While everyone wants to showcase their best selves online, white lies and half-truths inevitably lead to date night disappointment. Claiming to be a Game of Thrones fan despite never watching an episode, for example, can only lead to terrible dates spent listening to someone’s complex Targaryen theories. The more honest you are about your likes and dislikes, as well as what you’re looking for from a relationship, the less likely it is that you’ll end up on a date with someone you have nothing in common with.
2. Look for compatible matches
While having shared interests can lead to great date night conversations, true compatibility goes a lot deeper. When you and your date share core values and personality traits, you’re more likely to have a good date, even if sparks don’t fly. Forget music tastes; look for similarities in your lifestyles and outlooks on life. Do they share your family values? Are you both hopeless romantics? Do you prioritise your friendships equally? These traits will not only determine whether you have a good date, they’ll also indicate whether you could have a successful relationship.
3. Exchange messages for at least a week before meeting
One of the perks of online dating is that you can get to know someone well before meeting them. Of course, meeting in person may change your feelings, but if you spend time building a rapport before your date, you know you’ll be guaranteed good conversation, if nothing else. Exchanging messages online allows you to find out whether you and your date have enough in common to warrant a date. And if you don’t, then you can end the conversation – politely – and move on without wasting any unnecessary time or money.
4. Try talking on the phone
Another top tip that will decrease the cost of finding love is to chat to your date on the phone before agreeing to a date. It can be difficult to judge whether you have a real connection with someone over text alone. A 10 or 15-minute call can make all the difference. Hearing their voice may put you at ease, or make you realise you’re not compatible after all. Keep it short and light; ask lots of questions, and give detailed replies to keep the conversation going.
5. Arrange a coffee date
We’re all busy, and it that makes it more disheartening when you sacrifice a precious free evening for a bad date. Take the pressure and arrange a daytime coffee date instead. Not only will this feel like less of a time sacrifice if the date doesn’t turn out well, it’s also cost-effective and less intimidating than a sit-down dinner. Meeting in the day also means you can make a polite exit without needing to make excuses for an early night – or you could extend the date into the afternoon if all goes well!
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