Six tips for writing a dating profile that will get you noticed


“I love going out with friends to a nice country pub, but am equally happy curled up on the sofa at home with a DVD and a good bottle of red.”

Sounds familiar doesn’t it? I bet you’re thinking that if you had a pound for every time you’d read that on a dating profile you’d quite happily book yourself onto a singles holiday instead.

Let’s be honest though, a lot of people find any sort of writing tricky, and talking about yourself, in a positive way, has to be one of the toughest writing jobs going. How exactly are you meant to sell yourself without sounding arrogant? How do you get across the fact that you’re a normal, friendly, flexible person without resorting to clichés?

If you’re stuck for inspiration, and find yourself staring, sweaty palmed, at a blank screen, then fear not, here are six quick tips to help you write a dating profile that’s sure to get you noticed.


What are you looking for?

This doesn’t mean turning your profile into a list of requirements, but it’s good to have an idea before you start of what you want, so you can target your own description accordingly. If you want a non-drinker for instance, it’s probably best not to write about how much you love pubs.


Ask you friends

Often you’ll find other people know you better than you think, so ask for input from loved ones to help you focus on your strengths. What is it they love about you? What makes you special? Try to be specific, so have friends give examples rather than just saying ‘you’re nice’. Use these to inform your writing rather than just saying ‘my friends say I’m cool and fun to be with’, as this makes you sound a bit like you don’t have a mind of your own!


Do your research

Look at other profiles and notice what turns you off and what draws you in. Do you find yourself attracted to people who share a lot of information, or is it more appealing when people leave more to the imagination? There’s no right or wrong answer here, but it’s good to look around for inspiration.



Any good marketer will tell you that the key to successful marketing is to test, test and test some more, so don’t just write a profile and stick with it regardless. Come back to it, tweak it, add bits, take bits away, and see what impact this has on the reactions you get. Keep refining it until you find a formula that works for you.


Don’t be afraid to be specific

It’s often the little details that catch people’s attention, so don’t be afraid to be specific. For example, rather than saying ‘I like books’, tell people what books are on your bedside table right now, and why you love them. This can trigger a connection with a potential partner who has read the same book or loves the same genre.


And finally… check your spelling and grammar

You might not think it important to always use full stops, but sloppy presentation and lack of attention to detail is a massive warning flag to a lot of people. Your profile is your shop window, so make sure it’s dressed as neatly as possible!


Jo Middleton is a mum to two girls and an experienced internet dater. Read more from Jo on her award winning blog, Slummy single mummy or follow her on Twitter for more bite sized updates.

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