Ten Dos and Don’ts for Dating in Winter


Dating expert Charly Lester streamlines your love life with #DateHacks.

Dating in the winter months might not seem as attractive as dating in summer, but trust me … you can have a lot of fun dating at any time of the year!  Just follow these simple dos and don’ts.


Don’t let the cold and the dark put you off

There’s no denying that it’s an unattractive time of year.  With temperatures dropping, hurricane winds blowing and the dark closing in at 4pm, it can be all too easy to hibernate at home, and decide not to date again until Spring.  But pressing the pause button on dating isn’t the answer.  If you stop meeting new people every time the weather is miserable, in Britain you’d be vetoing half the year! Instead, embrace winter dating, and find ways to make the experience fun and different.


Do spend time online

Winter is a great time to get online and meeting new people.  January and February are the busiest months for online dating sites, so don’t miss out on the opportunity to meet a whole range of new people.


Don’t dress down

Just because it’s cold outside, don’t make less effort with your date outfits than you would in the summer.  Use dating as an opportunity to spruce up your winter wardrobe, and have a range of date outfits which you feel confident and comfortable in.  Confidence in the way you’re dressed translates to confidence in your attitude, so don’t date in your sweatpants or baggy jumpers.


Do try weekend brunch dates

Night may fall early in the Winter, but that doesn’t mean you have to date in the dark.  Why not suggest a weekend meet up?   Brunch or an early afternoon date can be relaxed, low-key options, during a warmer time of day.  So you can still get out and about whilst meeting someone new.


Don’t just opt for coffee

A coffee date might seem like a simple, cosy winter option, but it’s not as easy an option as you may think.  Sitting opposite a stranger with just a couple of cups of coffee on the table for distraction can make the whole thing feel too much like an interview.  And because coffee rarely lasts longer than an hour, it means neither of you is likely to relax and show your true colours on the date.  Be brave, and suggest something a bit more active instead.


Do try an outdoor ice-rink

One such activity idea is ice-skating.  Make the most of the beautiful outdoor ice rinks which appear at this time of year, and do something different on a date.  Skating side by side will take the pressure off, and any awkward silences are likely to just be filled with one of you falling over!


Don’t arrange a date the day after your Christmas party

Embrace winter dating, but do remember it’s a time of year for excess, so don’t schedule dates on days when you’re likely to be recovering from festive cheer!


Do check out the Christmas markets

Another great seasonal attraction, Christmas markets are a fun and relaxed way to pass the time with a potential match.  Your dating life and your normal life aren’t mutually exclusive, so don’t be afraid to combine the two.  If you fancy checking out a Christmas market, why not suggest it as a date idea.  And if your date mentions they need to do some Christmas shopping, why not stalk the shops together?


Don’t be afraid to embrace your inner child

Embracing your inner child is a great way to drop your guard and be your true self on a date.  And during the winter there are lots of different activities which can help you feel like a big kid.  When was the last time you went to a panto?  Or sang Christmas carols? Think out of the box, and explore the city you live in.  Turn dating into an adventure.


Do change location during the date

Don’t let the chilly weather put you off venturing outside on a date.  But also don’t feel the need to stay outside too long.  By switching location midway through the date, your date will feel closer to you, because it feels like you’ve shared more experiences together.


Charly Lester is one of Britain’s most recognised dating experts.  The founder of the UK Dating Awards, her blog 30 Dates is one of the most successful British dating blogs ever. The former Global Head of Dating at Time Out, Charly’s advice has appeared in most national newspapers, and she regularly appears on Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour.

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