Top Five Dating Resolutions for 2016


Dating expert Charly Lester streamlines your love life with #DateHacks.

Starting the New Year single can be tough.  Christmas can be one of the loneliest holidays when you’re missing a significant other.  But surviving the festive period solo can also give you the necessary kick-start to start 2016 with the right attitude to finding someone.

So what resolutions can you make to change the way you date in 2016?


Improve your odds of meeting someone

Yes, the notion of crossing someone’s path in a supermarket and catching his eye may work well in rom-coms, but in reality, happenstance is rare.  Improve your chances of meeting someone new by getting out there and actively dating.


Spring clean your dating profile

If you’ve been single for a while, your enthusiam can start to stagnate.  Give your dating life a spring clean by starting with your dating profile.  Treat yourself to a photo shoot, or have a friend take some new photos of you.  Update your answers, and focus on the positive adventures that you have coming up this year.  Get excited about the year, and try to express this enthusiasm in your words.  Describe yourself in a way which conveys that you are a fun person to spend 2016 with.


Make the effort to meet people

When you meet someone online, it can be easy to stay chatting for a while.  It’s often easier to talk over email or instant messages than it is face to face.  And so you can end up prolonging a first meeting.  The problem with this is that you may end up creating unrealistic expectations of the person you’re talking to, which he or she won’t live up to when you finally meet.  You can also end up putting yourself off meeting someone, without giving him or her a proper chance.

This year, aim to meet up with new people quickly.  Don’t get caught up trying to work out if they are ‘The One’.  Just give them a chance and a few hours of your day.  If you like each other, you’ve wasted less time finding each other.  And if you don’t you’ve still met a new person, and got out and about.  The more people you meet, the more chance you give yourself of starting a new relationship.


Make the most of the dating experience

Whilst being single can sometimes feel like a ‘condition’ you’re suffering, in a few years time, you will look back at this time, and barely remember it existed.  Make the most of the experience.  It’s one of few opportunities you get in life to meet new people every week, and have a one-on-one conversation with a complete stranger.  Go to shows.  Try new restaurants and bars.  Be a tourist in the town you live in.  Make the most of every date, so that when you look back on your time single, you do so with a smile on your face.


Know when to give yourself a break

Dating can get exhausting.  It takes time and investment meeting new people, and sometimes it can be tough to fit dates around a busy work schedule.  In order to invest yourself fully in the process, you also need to know when to take a break.  If the dating game is starting to get your down, take a break, and step away from it.  If you’re bored or half-hearted, your matches will pick up on it.  Take a break, and then get back to it when you feel ready.


Charly Lester is one of Britain’s most recognised dating experts.  The founder of the UK Dating Awards, her blog 30 Dates is one of the most successful British dating blogs ever. The former Global Head of Dating at Time Out, Charly’s advice has appeared in most national newspapers, and she regularly appears on Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour.

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