An expert guide to Valentine’s Day dating success


Valentine's Day dating

It’s easy to dread 14th February when you’re single, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Dating coach James Preece shares the secret to Valentine’s Day dating success

For some singles, Valentine’s Day can feel like one of the worst days of the year. They feel sad that they don’t have someone special to share it with and it can be frustrating to watch couples together.

However, as a dating coach, I can tell you that it doesn’t need to be like this. Valentine’s Day can actually be filled with possibilities.

Here are my easy steps to making sure you make the most of this unique opportunity:

1. Gratitude is everything

There’s no need to feel bad or lonely if you don’t have a significant other to spend the day with. Instead, spend Valentine’s Day constructively by showing love and gratitude for what you do have. Be grateful for all the wonderful things that you have in your life and don’t focus on what you don’t have. It can be helpful to make a list of things you have to look forward to; that way you can reflect on how good your life really is!

2.Connect with other singles

Now’s the perfect time to log in to your online dating account and start contacting people. I bet that they’ll be feeling exactly the same way you do, so why not reach out to them? For maximum results, don’t wait until Valentine’s Day itself; make a start the week before. That way you’ve got a great chance of arranging a date before the big day.

3. Treat yourself!

One of the main advantages of not having a partner at this time of year is that you’re completely free to do what you want to do. You don’t have to spend money on flowers, chocolates, presents, cards or meals that suddenly seem to cost twice as much as usual! So, why not buy yourself a gift instead? Even a small gesture such as a haircut, new top or takeaway can make a real difference to your day.

4. Get out there

At this time of the year, you’ll notice that there are an increasing number of events popping up. Have a look at what might be going on in your area and book something that looks interesting. You’ll have a fun night out with like-minded individuals and you never know who you might meet! Remember, you aren’t going to meet anyone if you don’t get yourself out there.

5. Prepare for the future, don’t dwell on the past

When Valentine’s Day approaches, it can be easy to think back to when you were last in a relationship and wish you still had that. The truth is that it didn’t work out for a good reason. Everything that’s happened to you in the past has helped to make you the person that you are today, so be proud of that. You have no control over the past but you can make sure your future is amazing. Go out on some dates now, even if you don’t really feel excited about it. Whatever happens, you’re boosting your chances.

I hope you’ve found these tips useful and can see that Valentine’s Day is just as much for singles as it is for loved-up couples. It’s all about attitude, so focus on having a good time and making the most of every opportunity. If you do that then you’re very likely to be on the right path to having someone special to celebrate with next year.

James Preece is one of the UK’s leading dating experts and dating coaches. He’s been working in the industry for over a decade and is a very experienced relationship expert, having helps tens of thousands of men and women to find love, build confidence and improve their relationships. James has his own Dating Clinic every Saturday on Talk Radio and is the author of 7 bestselling dating books, including Amazon bestseller ‘I will make you click!’ Find James on Facebook, Twitter @jamespreeceguru and at his website,

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