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8 things you should never do after a first date

by Eharmony Editorial Team - May 13, 2013

First dates can be a real lottery, but whether you feel like you’re a winner or a loser, here are 8 things you should never do post-first date.

A great first date will give you butterflies and that giddy feeling like you’re 17 again. A bad first date can make you feel like you’ll never find that special someone. Whatever kind of first date you’ve had here are eight things you should never do afterwards

1. Go text crazy

After you meet someone who you feel a connection with, oxytocin kicks in and removes any sense of restraint you once had.  This can unleash the text monster within, prompting you to text your date even when they haven’t responded to your last missive. If this sounds like you, take a deep breath and step away from the phone. If your date isn’t getting back to you as quickly as you’d like, staring at your phone won’t help, nor will sending more texts. It was just a first date, not a proposal!

2. Over analyse

We’re all guilty of over analysing a little sometimes, but overall it’s not a healthy thing to do – especially when it comes to dating. It’s so easy to wonder whether a particular hand touch or laugh was important but it’s also futile. The only way to know if someone liked you is to see if they agree to another date!

3. Add them on Facebook, follow them on Twitter, pin to their Pinterest board…

Social media has added a whole new dimension to dating, and it can be a really great way to stay in touch with someone. But, it can also cause a whole host of problems. We’d never advise finding someone online unless you really think your relationship is going somewhere. Adding a date on a social network after just one meeting, even if you’ve had a great time,  can be very awkward,  especially if the second date doesn’t work out…

4. Tell yourself you’ll be single forever

Bad first dates are tough. You build up to the big day, hoping they’ll be someone special, and then when there’s no chemistry it’s a real let down. This kind of situation can lead to a real ‘ I’m never going to meet someone’ mentality, but this is the worst thing you can do.

5. Act like you’re in a relationship

One date does not make a relationship, and yet some people seem to get confused about this. One date doesn’t mean the other person needs to return your calls immediately, be your emotional support or help you move house. Know the difference between ‘dating’ and ‘in a relationship’.

6. Cut off all contact with other matches

When you’re in the early stages of dating, anything can happen. After a first date you might think you’ve met the one, or you might write them off completely. Whatever happens, you shouldn’t cut off other matches; keep all your options open. We’re not saying you should do this 10 dates in, but it’s perfectly acceptable to go on a coffee date with someone on one day, and then the next day go out for drinks with someone else.

7. Tell your friends & family you’ve met The One

When you meet someone you have a real spark with you want to tell the world about this amazing person. We say, restrain yourself until you at least become exclusive. If you shout about this person from the rooftops only to find they don’t want a second date then you’ll feel pretty deflated.

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8. Play games

Playing games is not cool at all. Waiting a certain amount of time to text back, mentioning other dates to make them jealous, or simply pretending to be someone else means you deserve not to get a second date. Just be yourself!

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