Dating without drama

Dating without drama: 6 ways to avoid heartache

by Eharmony Editorial Team - June 21, 2018

Dating without drama really isn’t as hard it sounds. You can make the whole process easier simply by following a few guidelines. Here are 6 ways to avoid heartache

1. Don’t play games

Refusing to play games is a simple way to avoid dating drama. It’s all too easy to slip into bad habits; playing hard to get, delaying your message replies, or masking your true feelings. Try to resist the temptation. If you like someone, act like it. As soon as you change your own behaviour, your dating life will become much smoother and you’ll be able to spot – and avoid – game players instantly.

2. Communicate clearly

We’re often cautious with our communication. Fear of what other people think makes us hesitant to say what we mean. But good communication is essential to dating without drama. Take steps to stay in regular contact and be clear and deliberate with your words. If you’re worried that your tone or true meaning won’t be properly conveyed over text, pick up the phone and give them a call – or better yet – speak in person.

3. Be honest

Deception almost always leads to drama. Avoid it by being as honest as possible when dating. Be honest about your intentions; whether you’re looking for a relationship or something casual, don’t pretend otherwise. And if you start to fall for someone, don’t act like you don’t care. Even if your feelings aren’t reciprocated, when dating without drama you must stay true to yourself – it’ll be worth it in the long-run.

4. Be self-aware

Sometimes you’re simply not in the right headspace to date. It’s impossible to try dating without drama if you’re not in a good place. Maybe you’ve recently ended a long-term relationship, or you’re struggling with family problems. Dating rarely works when used as a distraction tactic. Never force yourself to date before you feel ready. Take time to work on yourself – we promise you won’t regret it!

5. Manage expectations

When you start dating someone, it’s good to manage – and communicate – your expectations from the outset. In the early days, maintain perspective and don’t expect someone you’re dating to act as they would if you were in a relationship. And take their personality into account – if they’re not a big texter, don’t expect them to be in constant contact.

Even so, if they do promise to call or text you and then don’t follow through, make it clear that you expect anyone you’re dating to stay true to their word.

6. Set boundaries

An easy way to ensure you’re dating without drama is to set boundaries and stick to them. If you want to avoid people that play games, are emotionally unavailable, or manipulative in their approach to relationships, clear boundaries will keep them at bay. And if someone you’re dating tries crosses or pushes your boundaries, make it clear you won’t compromise. You’ll soon be able to identify the people looking to create drama from those genuinely looking for love.