6 films that teach us important love lessons
Most films might be 2 hours worth of escape from everyday life, but some have valuable love lessons to teach us. Here are 6 films we can all learn something from – some of the choices might surprise you!
1. Four Weddings and a Funeral
Arguably Richard Curtis’s best film, this 1994 rom-com detailed the tangled love lives of a group of friends, played out through social occasions. At its heart is Hugh Grant as Charles, a lovable yet frustrating character who is unable to fix his terrible love life. By the end of the film, he comes close to marrying a woman he hates, all because he wasn’t brave enough to ask Andie MacDowell out in the first place! The lesson? When you see an opportunity, go for it. You are the only person who can control your happiness.
Love lesson: Speak up before it’s too late
2. Who Framed Roger Rabbit?
Who Framed Roger Rabbit is surprisingly romantic for a film famed for creating one of the sexiest ever cartoons, Jessica Rabbit. Jessica is a statuesque, auburn-haired nightclub singer and her husband is accident prone rabbit called Roger. When Eddie Valiant asks her why she loves Roger, she replies, ‘He makes me laugh’. She’s not joking either, he does make her laugh. The couples’ devotion to one another underpins the whole film. And it proves that it’s important to remember that looks will fade, but a sense of humour will last forever.
Love lesson: Being able to make someone laugh is a valuable skill
3. Bridget Jones: Edge of Reason
In places, the follow up to Bridget Jones’ Diary is completely ridiculous. However it does teach us one thing: over-thinking never helps. In the first film, Bridget found a great job and the perfect man but this time around she almost ruins it all by over-analysing everything. It’s frustrating to watch but reminds us all that you shouldn’t look for problems when they aren’t there. All you’ll do is create more issues.
Love lesson: Don’t ruin a good thing by over-thinking
4. American Beauty
This Oscar-winning film follows Lester Burnham (Kevin Spacey) as he realises that his life is barely worth living. His job is boring, his wife doesn’t love him, and his daughter seems to hate him. Admittedly, there are many aspects of American Beauty that are more warnings than lessons but there is one overriding theme: life is what you make of it. Lester learns to seize the moment and, while he does act selfishly, he shows what can happen when you actually start taking control of your own life. You can become happier.
Love lesson: Take control of your own life
5. Pride and Prejudice
Okay, so this film is an adaptation of a classic novel but it’s also packed full of love lessons. Elizabeth Bennett decides that Mr Darcy epitomises everything she hates before getting to know him. Over time, he proves himself to be compassionate and secretly saves her younger sister Lydia’s reputation. Lizzie can’t help but fall for him. What can we take away from this? Just because someone doesn’t like your favourite film or has a job that you think is boring, don’t dismiss them straightaway. Try to give every match a second chance (unless they make you feel uncomfortable). You never know where it might lead.
Love lesson: Don’t let your prejudices get in the way of love
6. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
The perfect romantic film for non-romantics, Eternal Sunshine introduces the concept of a world where you can erase painful memories. Joel and Clementine (Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet) choose to erase their relationship after a painful break up, and then spend the rest of the film finding their way back to each other. It’s a film with two messages. One, that while erasing painful memories sounds tempting, we need the pain to learn from our mistakes and move forward. Second, that love is about ups and downs. A painful experience doesn’t mean you should remove someone from your life completely. Sometimes you can work through the pain. After all, things are only really worth having if you’ve had to work for them – relationships are no exception.
Love lesson: Don’t be too hasty, love is about ups and downs
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