Are your prejudices stopping you from finding love?
It is entirely human to make assumptions about someone based on their looks or lifestyle. It’s not necessarily the right thing to do, but we all do it. But, next time you think ‘he/she just isn’t tall enough for me to date’, consider that you could have just passed up a wonderful person – a potential life partner – for the sake of a simple prejudice.
Over the next few paragraphs we’re going to debunk a few of those classic prejudices – are you guilty of any of these?
If you’re 6ft 8 it might be understandable that you don’t want to date someone who’s 4ft 9, for purely practical reasons. However, if you routinely dismiss potential dates because they are a couple of inches taller/shorter than you, then you should probably rethink your strategy. Firstly, think about all the wonderful short people out there like Eva Longoria, and the tall people, such as Will Smith. Secondly, we know you can’t control who you’re attracted to, but if you have a great connection with someone, why pass up the chance to find love over something like height?
Most people have a dating age range, but more people should add in a little wriggle room. Why refuse to talk to someone just because they’re a couple of years out of your range? They could be wonderfully mature, or refreshingly young for their age, and there’s only one way you’ll find out. Also, something else we often come across is when people refuse to date someone their own age. The irony here is that surely they see themselves as a great person to date, so why not someone else their own age?
It’s understandable that you’d want to date someone who you have something in common with – this fuels conversation and creates an instant connection. But if you’ve only ever chosen to date university graduates, and that’s never worked out, why not try a builder next time? By judging someone based on their upbringing, or education, you’ll be dismissing whole groups of brilliant people and you never know where you’ll find love.
We all want to be in a relationship with someone who can financially support themselves, and knows how to budget. But this doesn’t mean it’s ok to dismiss a potential date because they don’t have a six-figure income. Dating someone with an average income might mean you don’t shop in Waitrose every day, but it’s your shared experiences that matter, not what’s in your shared bank account.
If this article gave you the confidence to find your match, try eHarmony today!Join Now