How to escape from a dating drought


We’ve all experienced a dating drought, where new opportunities are nowhere to be seen for weeks, months and sometimes even years. If you’re active on the dating scene but nothing’s happening for you right now, we’ve got some simple tips to help.

Before dating, love yourself
This is simple enough, and something everyone, everywhere should do. By focusing on your inner happiness – whether that’s through meditation or simply looking in the mirror once a day and telling yourself you look good – you’ll draw other people to your positive energy. Maybe that sounds a bit ‘new age’ but people are naturally drawn to others who are happy in themselves. For a deeper look into how to do this (we know it’s a lot easier said than done) check out our article on how to become your most attractive self.

Tell people you’re ready to date
It’s not what you know, it’s who you know. Tell your friends, family and even (if you’re feeling brave) your colleagues that you’re ready to get back on the dating scene. You never know, they might have the perfect friend of a friend to set you up with. It doesn’t even need to be a blind date situation, make it clear you’d love to be invited to their dinner parties, drinks evenings etc, and that you’re eager to meet new people. Who knows, you might find love over some overcooked sausages and warm white wine at someone’s summer BBQ. If you’re hesitating, ask yourself, what have you got to lose?

Get online
We’re going to give you some very biased advice here – join an online dating site (preferably eHarmony!). The simple fact is that online dating sites open up a whole new world of people to you. And the other simple fact is that if you’re looking for something based in compatibility, leading to a happy, healthy long-term relationship, then eHarmony is for you. In the US, we are responsible for 2% of all weddings (Harris Interactive, 2009), and we’re creating new success stories every day in the UK.

Walk the dog
Walking around your local park in the morning, you’re much more likely to get into conversations with other people if you’re walking a dog. Not only will the walk give you some of those happy vibes we were talking about in our first tip, it will also get you noticed. If you’ve not got a dog, offer to walk your friend’s instead. They’ll be glad of the lie in and you’ve got a pooch with no strings.

Head to the gym
Gyms are brilliant places to meet new people, especially those who will most likely have the same interests as you. Strike up a conversation at the water fountain, or ask someone for tips on the best way to use a certain piece of equipment. You could even organise an informal date to play squash or badminton to get to know them better, without the pressure of a ‘real’ date.

Get to know your neighbourhood
Whether it’s your local pub, deli or cafe, head to your nearby neighbourhood haunts. Where there are local people hanging out, chances are they’ll be open to getting to know another local. At the very least you’ll be supporting your local businesses and you might even lay the foundations for a date.

The underlying theme here, as you’ll have noticed, is to put yourself out there. Grab every opportunity to meet new people and get back into the swing of dating. You don’t need to meet someone and ask them on a date straight away, simply having a wider social circle will do no end of good. You’ll find that once you get one date, and you start to regain confidence more will follow!

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