How to seize the moment
We are only here once and the thing most people say they want from their life is to be happy. Being happy rests on our attitude towards life and the things that happen to us. One of the greatest blocks to happiness is an inability to seize the moment
“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”
― Mother Teresa
The reason many people give for not being able to seize the moment is because of something that happened in the past – maybe they had a partner who cheated on them or a loved one that died – they are tied to the past with sadness and regret. Sometimes the sad events of the past make people think they know what is going to happen in the future – that if they were hurt once it will happen again so they never take the chance and miss out on life as a result.
Stop and ask yourself if you weren’t thinking about the past or the future, is there anything wrong with this moment right now?
“You live but once; you might as well be amusing.”
― Coco Chanel
Another common reason people lose the ability to seize the moment is that they take life far too seriously. If you watch a young child play they are totally in the moment, absorbed, amused and happy without any concerns to rob them of their joy. They play because it is in their nature but as we grow older somehow we lose that ability and end up only doing things that are worthwhile or improving in some way and which won’t make us look silly – we lose our sense of fun.
What do you do in your life just for fun? Do you play?
If you feel as though your life is lacking in fun then try doing something you used to enjoy as a child – skipping, bouncing a ball, doing a drawing or playing with Plasticine – let there be times in each week where you let go of your serious grown up self and let yourself have a little fun.
“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.”
― Helen Keller, The Open Door
When you are dating each new match has the potential to take your life in a whole new direction. For many people the unknown has become frightening and although they are unhappy or lonely they are reluctant to take the leap of faith needed to change things. They would rather remain in their comfort zone where everything is familiar.
Remember – a ship in port is safe but that’s not what ships are for
Next time you feel nervous before a date remind yourself that the nerves are a sign that you are setting out on a daring adventure.
“Dream as if you will live forever; Live as if you will die today.”
― James Dean
It is important to dream – to identify what it is you want in your life but many people spend so much time dreaming that they miss out on living. Identify your dreams but don’t be too attached to them because you might dismiss people and opportunities out of hand because they don’t fit the exact picture of what you thought your life would look like.
If you knew you only had a small amount of time left in this life what would you do differently?
“Forever is composed of nows.”
― Emily Dickinson
Next time you are on a date instead of focusing on a happily every after try to be really present and attentive to your date whether you can envisage a future with them or not. Being present is the fundamental basis on which all lasting relationships are built. You will notice the other person, their body language, tone of voice, posture and emotions and be much more responsive than you would if you were caught up just with your own concerns.
“Happiness, not in another place but this place…not for another hour, but this hour.”
― Walt Whitman
Happiness doesn’t come from the outside in but from the inside out – it has more to do with how we respond to the circumstances of our life than with what external events that come our way. People can be deeply unhappy even when circumstances are idyllic and happy even on a grey, wet November day when the funds are low – it has more to do with your attitude than anything else so make a decision and a commitment to be happy right here, right now.
“Carpe diem. Seize the day.”
― John Keats
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