Learn to deal with criticism



Nobody wants to be criticised and almost everybody is sensitive to it. The very word sounds negative. But when it’s given constructively, receiving criticism can be a very positive experience on the path to finding love. Read on to find out how to use harsh words to your benefit.

Criticism can be good

If people think you’ll react aggressively to feedback they won’t give it to you at all so it’s important to be open to it. Usually it is motivated by a desire to help you so be aware it can lead to positive change. But don’t be afraid to ask questions to find exactly what they expect you to improve. If you don’t know what they mean, the criticism is useless.

Decipher good criticism from bad

Consider what motivated the criticism and how it is given. Has the person voiced it to help you or are they giving it to you to put you down? To be able to spot the good from the bad is essential. If someone criticises you about something you can’t change, then it is likely it was intended to damage your self-esteem.

Don’t argue

Criticism isn’t always fair, but before you jump on the defence, consider the point the person is making carefully. If you react before thinking it through, you’ll halt all chance for improvement.  If you still disagree despite being open to change, you are justified in your own opinion. However, don’t react with hostility. Use the right tone and be open for a discussion.

Use the feedback wisely

This is your chance to see yourself as others do, or at least as the person dishing out the criticism does. Don’t linger on what they said. Work out what to do with it constructively.

It’s never too late to change

Don’t be stubborn. You can still improve yourself at any stage in your life so take positive steps to act on the feedback you’ve been given.


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