What women – and men – really want


Men want...to love and be loved

The fact is that we all want to love and to be loved, but surprisingly men rate this even more highly than women. When choosing their Top 10 Must Haves and Can’t Stands men rank I want to ‘feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner’ and I want someone ‘who’s gentle and kind’ higher than women do.

Women don’t want...a couch potato

Men might not want someone who’s overweight, but women equally cite they don’t want someone who likes to spend excessive time sleeping, resting or being a "couch potato”. Is this just a difference between how men and women view laziness?

Men don’t want...someone who’s overweight

Coming in at #10 this is one Can’t Stand that men specify but doesn’t appear on womens’ lists. Not surprised? Check out the next entry and you’ll see how women aren’t really that different, they just have a different spin on this ‘weighty’ issue...

Men want...a calm risk taker

Men also rate ‘someone who isn’t afraid to take a risk’, and ‘someone who can handle life’s frustrations with a patient demeanour’ as important qualities in their ideal woman – whereas these qualities don’t even make it into the top 10 Must Haves for women. Do women view risk taking as reckless and bad for a relationship?

Women want...someone who will support them

While men rank love and attraction highly (at #3) women put ‘someone I can count on to always support me’ in this spot. There's nothing wrong with wanting some support, but does this indicate that women are conforming to a stereotype we thought had started to decline in the 21st century?

Men want...to explore their sexual desires

Surprising or not, men rate ‘someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding’ higher in their Must Haves than women do. Is this is a question of priorities, or is it simply that men think sex is more important in a relationship than women do?

Women want...someone who’s financially responsible

We’ve already learnt that women want someone to support them, but they also rank financial responsibility as a Must Have, which doesn’t even make it into the male top 10.

Women don’t want...someone with anger issues

Perhaps it’s that women find anger more confrontational and take it more seriously than men. Whatever the reason though, women rank ‘I can't stand someone who can't manage their anger, who yells, or bottles it up inside’ two places higher than men.

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