10 things you need to know about using eHarmony


10 things you need to know about using eHarmony

Ever thought of giving eHarmony a go? These top tips will help make your online dating experience a success

1.  Upload a profile photo

Posting a profile photo means you’re NINE times more likely to receive communication from your matches. Simple as that. Better still, post lots of photos that really tell your matches something about you . You only need to browse the comments on our eHarmony Advice articles to find out what many users think of profiles with no photo.

Advanced reading:
–    The ultimate profile photo sins
–    Get the most from your photo gallery
–    Trouble uploading a photo? Call our Customer Care team for help: 0800 028 0308 [Mon-Fri, 8am-8pm]

2. Take time on your profile

Having a great About Me profile is just as important as having a stunning profile photo. You might be a supermodel, but if your profile is half empty with one word answers written in CAPS your matches aren’t going to give you a second look. Use that space wisely to say something honest and interesting about yourself.

Advanced reading:
–    What NOT to say in your ‘About Me’ profile

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3. Think about your match settings

We send you matches based on compatibility, but we know that other factors such as age and distance are important to you too. Check your match settings by logging into your account and clicking the ‘My Settings’ tab. We will not send you any flexible matches for any setting you indicate as being 5-7 on the importance scale.

Advanced reading:
–    How to get your distance settings right

4.    Give every match a chance

Think back on your past relationships – love comes in many shapes and forms doesn’t it? Give every match a fair chance, even if they don’t fit your usual ‘type’ when you look at their profile photo. Their About Me profile might describe the person of your dreams!

5. Communicate!

It might sound a bit obvious to say this, but your mantra should be communicate, communicate, communicate. You’d be amazed by the number of people – women especially – who wait for matches to get in touch with them. What if your match is being just as hesitant as you?

Advanced reading:
–    Communication: your top 3 questions answered

6. Take time on your responses

Your matches have taken the time to send their initial questions, or communicate with you via eHarmony Mail, so the least you can do is check out their profile and read what they’ve got to say. If you’re going to reply, take your time in working out what to say – it could mean the difference between whether you get a response or not.

Advanced reading:
–    The 10 biggest messaging sins

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7. Give your matches a chance to respond

We all lead busy lives so don’t fret if a match doesn’t respond for a few days. In fact, we’d suggest a leeway of up to 2 weeks – which is generally enough time to account for a busy work schedule or a holiday. You can also ‘Nudge’ a match to prompt them to reply to you, but don’t bombard them with messages, it’ll just come across as needy.

8. Keep things neat

Keep your matches in order by using our Archive and Close features. If you’re communicating with a group of matches, but you’re still interested in another match, archive that match for a while until you’re ready to communicate with them too. Only close a match when you’re completely sure you don’t want to be in touch with them again – you can’t re-open them if they close you too.

Advanced reading:
–    Find out more about the Archive feature

9. Stay safe

Treat internet dating with the same caution you would with any other kind of dating. Don’t give away personal details to your match, back off if anything about them doesn’t feel right (your gut instinct is very important) and if you’re concerned about a match, report them immediately to us (matchconcerns@eharmony.com)

Advanced reading:
–    How to stay safe when dating online

10. Enjoy!

In the midst of all this advice and the end goal of meeting the person of your dreams it’s easy to forget this should be a really enjoyable experience. Go out on some great dates, meet some interesting people, and most of all have fun doing it.

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