Kevin and Anneka
Kevin: “I had separated from my wife around two years before joining eHarmony and had no idea how to go out and meet somebody new. I was 16 when I met my ex wife and didn’t know how to meet someone as an adult or even how to have a real adult relationship. I’d never even been on a real first date before! It became obvious over two years of being single that I was really unlikely to find someone the traditional way.
I’d dabbled in internet dating with no success for about six months and had my eHarmony account for a little while, but by the time I was matched with Anneka I had been a member for about two months. I liked how eHarmony took the responsibility of actually finding someone out of my hands and I liked the regular selection of people I received with similar interests to me.
In the two months I spent on eHarmony I’d not found a girl who ticked all of my boxes until Anneka. Not only was she stunning but she shared my love of video games, something I’d never found in a girl before. She even listened to the video game podcast I host, so already knew who I was and what I sounded like! It really felt like she was at a massive advantage having heard me talk for two hours every week, whereas I was just visiting her profile page! I was slightly daunted!
Before our first date we exchanged a lot of emails, Facebook messages and texts and had a web chat a couple of days before we met up. When I finally saw Anneka on the webcam, I was blown away. She was the most beautiful woman I’d ever seen. I immediately started to panic even more and I just couldn’t work out what she could possibly see in me! That initial web chat lasted for hours. We both completely lost track of time, which quickly became a running theme in our relationship.
On the day of the first date I was so nervous that I couldn’t eat, something completely out of character for me. We met in the centre of Nottingham and as I walked up to her for the first time, I opened with an awful joke. When she laughed at that I instantly knew I was falling in love. I know it sounds corny but I’d never believed in love at first site until that moment and I guess it’s one of those things you have to experience to believe in it. That first date was supposed to just be a couple of hours over coffee, but ended up lasting 18 hours, with us just talking constantly. By the time I left I knew I was going to be spending a lot more time with Anneka.
I can’t imagine not being with Anneka now and find it hard to remember what life was like before her. It’s like I was missing her even before I knew she existed, and then when we met that feeling went away for the first time in my life. I know we’re meant to be together, and have no doubts at all that she is the one. She’s just a part of me now.
As for the relationship itself, we’re planning on moving in together in August. We both have kids from previous relationships and it’s great to be able to say that they’ve hit it off almost as well as we have. The five of us already feel like a family and I know we’re going to be very happy together.“
Anneka: “I’d been single since 2008 and had a few relationships that ended after a few months, nothing that worked! I have a seven year old son with autism and I’ve always found it difficult to find someone who understands his condition. I decided to try online so I could make it clear to people that I had a son, so whoever looked at my profile knew from the start what my situation was. I’d been on eHarmony for three months when we were matched together. It all started with a message from Kevin over a free weekend.
I was so excited but very nervous before our first date but our webcam chat a couple of days earlier was fun and definitely helped to break the ice. We planned to meet in Nottingham for a coffee and when we met we hit it off right away. My life since we first met has been the happiest. I feel like I’ve known Kevin for years and I can now move forward with my own and my son’s life.”