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Julia and Andy

Nottingham, Nottinghamshire

Julia: “I decided after a turbulent five-year relationship with my ex that I didn't want to meet anyone through work or by going out so after a friend decided that she was going to sign me up for another dating site, I thought I’d beat her to it and had a look at some websites myself. I wanted to find one that was more focused on introducing me to my soul mate rather than just some fun dates.  I definitely wanted to find my special someone. I decided to use eHarmony as it seemed to offer just what I was looking for. It took me several weeks to complete the profile pages as I wanted to take my time and truth be told I was still battling with the fact that at 38 I was putting myself on a dating site.


Anyhow I went ahead and posted my information, paid my subscription and was sent some photos of guys that matched my profile. I saw Andy's and I knew instantly that I wanted to meet him so I sent him an ice breaker. After a day he responded, we started emailing and soon went to phoning one another so we spoke every night for several hours at a time. I then asked if he would like to meet and we arranged to meet at a pub on the 4th September. We spent seven hours together heaving a meal and a walk around Wollaton park and then we arranged to meet up again the following weekend in Matlock Bath to spend the weekend together. Since then we have spent as much time as possible together and when Andy proposed I had to ask him to repeat the question to make sure I’d heard him correctly. I said yes.


Andy is the loveliest person with a great and positive outlook, which he passes on to me. He is very supportive and has a lovely relationship with my children who have welcomed him willingly, particularly my daughter who doesn't give her heart away easily. Andrew makes me feel special and happy. I miss him when he is not here, he works hard with his job and I do and will always appreciate the sacrifice he is making to live with me as this adds to his travelling and he already does plenty with work. He is a very special man and I am lucky to have him in my life.


We have booked our weeding for next June in Central Park, New York and we are taking our four children who all get on very well and are very excited about the whole thing. All my friends and family have met Andy and think he is lovely. They are very pleased to see me happy and fully support our relationship.”


Andy: “After a number of years of unsuccessful relationships I decided to try internet dating. This was a decision that took many months as I was instinctively embarrassed that I needed the help of a website, but it became clear that work and the pub were not going to provide me with an opportunity to meet my soul mate. I chose eHarmony because it concentrates on finding a personality/interest match rather than simply throwing photos at you.


I saw Julia's profile on my first visit but felt that she was too perfect and wouldn't respond to me. On my second visit I received an ice breaker from Julia and of course I responded immediately. We emailed for a few days and then spoke on our mobiles. I felt an instant connection to Julia who is a wonderfully warm and funny lady. We arranged to meet on the 4th September for Sunday lunch and spent the whole day talking in the pub and then went for a walk around Wollaton Park. I fell for Julia that afternoon in the sunshine, holding hands in the park. It was difficult to leave that day but we agreed to meet the following weekend in Derbyshire. I travelled to Romania that week but was able to catch an earlier flight home and my first thought was to meet Julia, so I drove from Manchester to Nottingham for dinner. The following weekend we shared a perfect, romantic time walking and talking. Since then we have spent almost every moment together and I fell completely in love with Julia.


After meeting each others’ children, family and friends everyone has expressed their happiness in seeing me truly happy for the first time in years. I have met my true soul mate and the love of my life. I am grateful to eHarmony for bringing us together. I asked Julia to marry me in mid-October and cannot wait for the day in June when I’ll be able to begin the rest of my life with a truly beautiful person.”



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