Faith and Al
"I admit it. I am an online dating veteran. I’ve tried many online dating sites. Before you wonder about my sanity, or my desperation, I didn’t try all of them at the same time. I’ve been single for 15 years.
Eventually, I had taken myself off of the dating sites. One day, though, I got an offer from eHarmony that I couldn’t refuse. I said, “What the heck! I’ll give it a try again”. A few days into my membership, a profile showed up that immediately riveted my attention. I looked at his picture and liked what I saw. I read his profile and thought, “This can’t be! Who IS this guy? And then I prayed, “Lord, there’s something about this man. Will you please have him contact me? (I don’t pursue. I wanted to be pursued). I went back to that profile daily but I stuck to my guns, my plan, and waited for what seemed like an eternity. In reality, it was only 4 days and, voila, he contacted me! Al had also just joined eHarmony and was wading through 170 matches. It was so overwhelming for him that he almost quit! 45 of those matches contacted him. In his heart, he kept saying, “I don’t want to be pursued, I want to pursue! (Hmmm…does that sound familiar?) He came across my profile and looked at it every morning and every night for what seemed like an eternity to him as well. “Should I contact her? There’s just something about her. Why do I keep going back to this profile? He has a close relationship with God and he felt God telling him, “Contact her”. So after four days, he did.
In the past, I was always cautious and held my cards fairly close to my vest as I screened and tested and observed. When Al and I met, it became immediately clear to me that this was the man that I was waiting for. At one point in the conversation, I heard myself say, “At the risk of scaring you to death, I have to tell you I’ve dated a lot of men in my years of singlehood and I can honestly tell you that you are the first man in a long time that I would be willing to close the back doors for and give this a solid chance.” I couldn’t believe those words were coming out of my mouth! It was like an out of body experience for me! But there the words were out on the table. They couldn’t be retracted now! I gulped and waited for his response, fully anticipating that he would politely exit, stage left. That’s not what happened. He looked right at me and said, “Funny, that doesn’t scare me at all”. So, thus was birthed the relationship I’ve waited for all my life. I had always heard people say, “I can’t explain it. I just knew.” And they’ve been happily married for years. I never understood that until now because I, too, can say I just know and it’s been worth the wait.