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Finding love again can be easier than you think. Whether you are divorced or separated, if you are ready to move on and meet someone special, you have come to the right place. At eHarmony we can help you find compatible matches looking to find someone just like you.
We understand that dating after divorce or separation is not always simple. Even if the split has been an amicable one, separated and divorced men and women naturally find themselves experiencing lots of different emotions, often including some loss of confidence before they are ready to start again.
Giving yourself time and showing yourself lots of patience and understanding are good ways to start divorced dating. It can also help to share your experiences with other men and women who have gone through similar experiences. It’s surprising how a fresh voice can turn our negative worries into positive thoughts for the future. It's also remarkable how a little fun can put a whole new slant on life, and a spring in your step.
When any relationship ends, it’s important to spend a little time reflecting on the reasons for the separation and the reasons why you want to start dating again now. There are no right or wrong answers, but stopping to think now can save you heartache in the future. It can also help you find a compatible match whose own circumstances and outlook suit your own.
Whether you and your previous partner were married or you were living together, a relationship of this kind is bound to be an important influence and separating is a big step. Separated dating can be fun and rewarding, as well as restore confidence and give you the chance to find love. Dating after separation is about prioritising your happiness and proactively setting out to find love.
Similarly, there are many things to think about when it comes to dating after divorce. Taking care of yourself is the number one priority. People often find that, although the experience of divorce can be a difficult one, if they give themselves time to heal, then the reward is a newfound emotional maturity that makes dating more satisfying. Our Guided Communication allows you to take things at a pace that feels right to you.
Every situation is different of course – dating a separated man with no ties can be different from dating a separated man with kids. So single parents or divorced or separated women with children often feel better about dating divorced men with children, as they’re more likely to understand the importance of the parent/child relationship and be more willing to compromise and help out. Think about what your priorities in a partner are and let us know using our preference settings.
Once you have found someone you would like to get to know better, the trick for successful separated or divorced dating is to know when to give yourself more time and to know when you’re holding back unnecessarily and not allowing the real you to shine through. You have every reason to feel confident when dating. As well as having maturity and relationship experience to draw upon, now you are ready to start to date again, you have a clear sense of what, and who, you are looking for.
Dating for divorced men and women can still be hard for practical reasons, even when you approach it with confidence. For one thing, where do you find singles who might be your type?
At bars there is no guarantee you will have anything in common with the singles you meet, and many in your social circle may already be in relationships. A good way to meet like-minded people is to join clubs or classes and pursuing hobbies, but sometimes it can be tricky to find the time.
This is where online dating comes into its own. Online dating allows you the personal freedom and space to make connections and choose dates in the privacy of your home. With eHarmony you can do all this at a pace that suits you and be sure you will only be matched with compatible singles. You can make meaningful connections and learn new things about yourself and others.
If you are a divorced woman, you may decide that you would like to try dating a divorced man, and vice versa – divorced men may deliberately choose to date divorced women. Many divorced singles decide that with so much life experience behind them they would prefer to find someone online with similar experiences and compatible hopes for the future. Whoever you are looking for, we can help you find them.
Here at eHarmony we have put years into researching what makes relationships successful and what it takes to make the right match. With us you can be matched with singles you are deeply compatible with – meaning you have a great basis for a relationship if you want to take things further.
Using our Guided Communication tool and chatting by email, it is possible to get to know someone without having to commit to anything you don’t want. And all the while you have the option to take the relationship to the next level if and when you feel the time is right – all this from the comfort of your home.
So what are you waiting for? The benefits are clear, the opportunity is here and the time is now.
“I had been single since July 2008 after my divorce and found it difficult to juggle a social life whilst also caring for my two-year-old son, Thomas. In 2010, I decided that I was ready to move on from my past marriage and very much wanted to find that special someone to start a new relationship with. I wanted to share my life and Thomas’ with someone and build plans for the future. I was lonely.
I was attracted to eHarmony when I saw it advertised on TV because it was promoting that I’d be matched on values and morals, which was extremely important to me. So having seen the advert a couple of times and also after receiving personal recommendations from a friend who had also found a relationship through eHarmony, I decided to give it a go. I joined in January 2010 and was matched with Lee in the March. Lee sent me an icebreaker and I responded. I can’t recall what the messages were now, but I do remember reading his profile and it made me smile. He seemed very genuine and his values matched mine perfectly.”